7 Things You Need To Know About Self Love

Before You Ultimately Ignite Yourself! here is what you need to Know about self love!

There’s one truth most of us ignore. You do not need to be somebody else to be loved. All you need is to love yourself first. Love is absolute and perfect. And it starts with self love!

In fact, all that is needed in order to have love is to be love. True Love is unconditional, and the experience is absolute and perfect. In this article you will learn how to love and put yourself first. But before we can actually talk about how to self-love, let us examine in detail what self-love really is. Why it is crucial, and how to develop this skill.

1. Self Love: The Absolute Definition!

Self-love is the ability to accept oneself completely as one’s own person, with all their flaws and imperfections. It means accepting who you are right now, not who you were yesterday or who you hope to be tomorrow! But who you are today, and feeling good about it!

The thing we need to understand, is that self-love has nothing to do with narcissism! It is important to realize the difference between loving yourself and being egocentric. True love does not, in any way, mean to consider yourself “godlike”. Nor it is to think that “everyone else is beneath you”. True love for yourself is a natural and modest feeling. The concept of self-love is to completely and unconditionally accept yourself. And realize your self-worth.

2. Why It’s Crucial

Sounds like a redundant question but unfortunately many people fail to realize how important self-love is. Therefore, I will share with you my experience. As a life coach, I have worked with different people. Many complained about money. Actually, about not being able to make enough money! Some complained about not being able to find love and have a family. Others complained about their health.

But the one thing in common between all of those people, is that after going through a few sessions, they begin to dig deeper into themselves and reveal the real issue. They all at one point complain about being cheated on or treated badly in a relationship, divorce and just having no luck in love. And I already know, next they will tell me about their sense of incompletion or that they do not feel like they can do or deserve better.

You may not believe me! But to resolve all these issues, there is one universal method. And it is self-love.

3. Because

When you accept yourself completely, you appreciate yourself and realize your self-worth. You gain self-respect and self-esteem. Which means, you will not let anyone belittle your soul or show you any disrespect. Apart from all that, loving yourself means living in harmony with your own self, and feeling confident in any situation.

When we are full of self-love, it overflows into other people’s lives without us even trying. We attract those who will treat us well and build healthy relationships with them because they see that we are happy with ourselves and who they are being in our lives.

4. But

On the other hand, if you are constantly putting yourself down and criticizing yourself, then nobody will want to spend time with you because there is no point in investing themselves in someone who does not believe in themselves or like themselves very much.

In order for us to get what we want out of life, it’s important that we put ourselves first so that we can spread positive vibes into the world around us instead of being negative all the time!

5. Self Love Isn’t selfish

It’s hard to be alone. It’s hard to be lonely. And for some of us, it’s even harder when we have no idea how to love ourselves.

Self-love isn’t selfish; it’s necessary! In fact, loving yourself is not about putting yourself first. It is about:

• Loving yourself unconditionally and accepting yourself for who you are.
• Understanding that there is nothing wrong with you and that you deserve love just as much as anyone else does.
• Being comfortable in your own skin, feeling worthy of receiving love from others, and being able to give love back.
• Believing you deserve to feel happy, safe and loved in your own skin, and if you don’t know how to do this yet? It’s time to learn how!

6. How To Do It

A key component of self-love is being honest with yourself: acknowledging your strengths while also accepting your weaknesses without judgment or criticism; becoming aware of your needs so that you may understand what makes YOU happy; accepting compliments without feeling guilty for taking them (because they’re true); making time for yourself by following through on goals. Be happy and let go of the need for validation from others.

Create your own space. Make sure you have enough space to express your true self. Enjoy being alone with yourself and your thoughts. Do the things that make you happy. Like dancing to your favorite song or playing “the floor is lava” with your best friends!

Take care of your body, exercise and eat healthy. Learn new skills and always keep working on yourself. Surround yourself with romance. Get flowers and cook romantic dinners just for you. Burn some incense and have a bubble bath. Enjoy starry nights and love stories. Embrace your imperfections. Constantly, give yourself complements and give yourself gifts. Buy the shoes you wanted and take that trip to Paris!

7. Stages of Self Love

Forgive yourself

This might be a hard step. But forgiving yourself is the only way to achieve true love. You can write down love notes to yourself. Use daily affirmations. But best of all, is making a list of all the things that you love about yourself, for example: “I love myself, because I love cats”. I love myself, because I am nice”. It can literally be anything. Then read it to yourself every day, in front of a mirror.

Accept yourself

Repeat: “I am who I am. I am me and it is great!” The fact is, we all have imperfections, weaknesses and limitations. The secret is to make the best of what you already have. Turning your imperfections, into traits that help you stand out. Your weaknesses into strengths. And your limitations into opportunities! Be you and be unique. Express your authentic self and the right people will surround you.

Respect yourself

Your mind, body and soul. This means that you appreciate yourself as a spiritual person, who is capable of thinking. And appreciate your healthy body and take care of it. Set boundaries and stick to them. If someone hurts you, let them know how you feel. And do not hurt yourself. Understand your emotions and deal with them the right way. For example, if you have a problem with overeating, try to understand the reason why that happens. Overeating is just a symptom of something deeper. And explain to yourself that you will not overeat because it hurts your body and could cause health problems. Tell yourself that you love yourself and will not tolerate any harm.

In conclusion

If you want to get satisfaction from life, you need to learn to accept yourself. Once you do, you will realize how awesome you are. And you will never want to return to those days of self-destruction. You will be healthier, wealthier and much much happier!